What’s group got to do with it? Does it matter? Do we need it?
The mighty internet defines it this way:
A spirit of familiarity and closeness
Awesome. This works perfectly with a group of people the mister and I were invited to spend time with last weekend. A coworker mentioned that he was going to a Denver Broncos Meet-up downtown at one of the Irish pubs. What? People do that? I guess they do, because there were well over 100 of them at the location, wearing orange and blue, sporting names that rang a bell and some that did not. My husband knew one person in this sea of color and I knew nobody. We ordered drinks and a snack, sat down, and immediately got introduced to the 8 people sitting on our edges. It was even friendlier than the meet and greet at church. Different than regular mingling, the greeters had a slightly different pattern and focus;
“Hi, I’m Xxxxxxx!”
“Did you live in Denver? Where? When?”
And off we would go down bunny trails of familiar restaurants, landmarks, neighborhoods, schools and frozen moments in Colorado time. Nobody asked what you did for a living or who you worked for. People just wanted to know about people who shared a piece of their history. It was relaxing for the mister as there was no talk of work. It was fascinating to me, the analyzer, watching this group of people just hanging out, being nice and enjoying another moment in their history together. I have to admit it would make me smile largely when a change on the scoreboard was inevitable. The sea of color would become one wave, nervously pacing, tapping drink glasses, muttering quietly and telling the players that what they were about to do was obviously very wrong or very right. Quiet as they watch, but not for long, as chairs scrape the floor, people stand up and the wave of blue and orange inches toward the large screen on the wall, shouting “Go, go, go!” because it matters that they are heard and it WILL make the men on the screen run faster! Success! Big cheer! Old school tunes are hummed from days ago, mainly the kazoo style music for the Hey! song. I have to admit, an afternoon of this was delightful and made sweeter by the fact that they won and I get to go repeat this event in a few days. It brought back some of those memories from twenty years ago when we would all meet at one house after church, crockpots in hand, orange and blue cookies and cupcakes baked and piled high enjoying every minute of frenzied fellowship while all the kids played together. Kids are grown, many of us are now gluten free, but this was still a frenzied fellowship, and this time we are the kids that get to play together.
We have noticed that we tend to get in on stuff toward the end and this is no different for us. It’s the end of the season, but next season we have something really fun to look forward to. A day with our new friends, our comrades! So to answer the questions:
What’s group got to do with it? Whether we admit it or not, everything. Who does not want to belong to something other than their family?
Does it Matter? Heck yes it does! We could have watched the game at home. Avoided the 50 mile round trip, saved $30 on food and drinks and more on gasoline, gotten things done while the game was on. OR live in the three hour time capsule of energy, laughing and a change of scenery with very agreeable people. Life is short, change up the days you get!
Do we need it? Yes and no, it’s not a life or death thing like food and water. But yes, I think we need the spirit of familiarity and closeness every now and then to remind us that there is a world outside our homes and offices, and it is a fun place to venture into. It’s not all news reports and headlines, sometimes it’s just a drink and a snack and a silly shirt that makes you look like everyone else. Sometimes it is just some good memories and FUN.